Day 18 – How To Win With People.

Would you like to learn how to win with people?

When you first meet someone are you able to build a rapport quickly?

Would you like to make a friend for life? Then help somebody WIN

“Life is pretty much a selling job. Whether we succeed or fail is largely a matter of how well we motivate the human beings with whom we deal to buy us and what we have to offer”.

John C. Maxwell

WE NEED OTHERS!

Today’s Tool is “Tips On How To Win With People”, taken from the book 25 Ways to Win with People: How to Make Others Feel Like a Million Bucks by John C. Maxwell. There are people who are so focused on themselves that they forget about other people and their needs. We don’t live on an island alone, which means that we are always interacting with people. So why not learn a few tips on how to win with people that you come into contact with.

Making An Impression vs. Being Impressive

What is more important to you? Most people spend their life trying to be impressive in front of others to make themselves look good. However, you should make it your goal to make a lasting impression on others as this is more valuable.

Time To Take Action

There are 25 ways to win with people, as you know by the title of the book. However today I will share with you three ways to win with people.

Tip 1 – Practice the 30-second rule

Within 30 seconds of meeting someone, you should give them the Triple A” Treatment:

1. Attention

2. Affirmation

3. Appreciation

A good tip to remember is always start your conversations when speaking to someone by talking about the other person instead of about yourself.

The benefits – People feel motivated when they feel valued.

Remember: When we add value to others, they are drawn to our side, but when we belittle others, they withdraw from our influence.

Tip 2 – Say the right words at the right time

“Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances.” 

Proverbs 25 vs 11

Words have power, they can uplift a person or bring them down

John Maxwell once said:

1. The wrong words said at the wrong time discourage me.

2. The wrong words said at the right time frustrate me.

3. The right words said at the wrong time confuse me.

4. The right words said at the right time encourage me.

Tips On Applying This Tool

1. Forget about what you want to say and focus on what the other person needs to hear.

2. Ask yourself what would I want to hear, if I was in this person’s shoes?

Tip 3 – Let people know you need them.           

Everyone wants to be needed and feel wanted. Don’t you? I used to think and say that I didn’t need anyone and believed that I could do it all alone. How wrong was I……. that way of thinking only led to a burnout and feeling lonely.

How do you let other people know that they are needed? Ask someone for help.

People need to FEEL needed.

People need to KNOW they are needed.

 People need to know that, they can offer support when needed.

Now think about the following

1. “Who specifically can help me do a better job than I can do alone?”

2. “Who is just waiting to be asked to join in with what I am doing?”

3. “What area of your life do you need help with?”

Take action today and ask someone that you may have not asked before for help.

Benefits Of This Tool

1. You will be able build a quick rapport with people.

2. Helps you to make a good first impression.

3. Develop effective relationships with others.

4. Build trusting relationships.

5. Stand out from the rest.

Some Recommended Reading  

1. 25 ways to win with people how to make others feel like a million bucks  John C. Maxwell and Les Parrott.

2. How to Win Friends and Influence People Paperback – Dale Carnegie

John Maxwell’s 25 Ways To Win With People Are As Followed

1. Start with yourself

2. Practice the 30-second rule

3. Let people know you need them

4. Create a memory and visit it often

5. Compliment people in front of other people

6. Give others a reputation to uphold

7. Say the right words at the right time

8. Encourage the dreams of others

9. Pass the credit on to others

10. Offer your very best

11. Share a secret with someone

12. Mine the gold of good intentions

13. Keep your eyes off the mirror

14. Do for others what they can’t do for themselves

15. Listen with your heart

16. Find the keys to their hearts

17. Be the first to help

18. Add value to people

19. Remember a person’s story

20. Tell a good story

21. Give with no strings attached

22. Learn your mail man’s name

23. Point out people’s strengths

24. Write notes of encouragement

25. Help people win.